“not natasha,” a photographic essay on eastern european sex trafficked slaves by dana popa
(documentary, the real sex traffic; film, lilya 4-ever)
Shout out to mama’s who are sex workers, and enslaved.
(via shakethecobwebs)
“not natasha,” a photographic essay on eastern european sex trafficked slaves by dana popa
(documentary, the real sex traffic; film, lilya 4-ever)
Shout out to mama’s who are sex workers, and enslaved.
(via shakethecobwebs)
Super cute (vintage) mama and baby. I hope I’m this awesome when I’m a mom.
(via hellogorey)
“Let me tell you some things. I used to investigate child abuse and neglect. I can tell you how to stop the vast majority of abortion in the world. First, make knowledge and access to contraception widely available. Start teaching kids before they hit puberty. Teach them about domestic violence and coercion, and teach them not to coerce and rape. Create a strong, loving community where women and girls feel safe and supported in times of need. Because guess what? They aren’t. You know what happens to babies born under such circumstances? They get hurt, unnecessarily. They get sick, unnecessarily. They get removed from parents who love them but who are unprepared for the burden of a child. Resources? Honey, we try. There aren’t enough resources anywhere. There are waiting lists, and promises, and maybes. If the government itself can’t hook people up, what makes you think an impoverished single mom can handle it? Abolish poverty. Do you have any idea how much childcare costs? Daycare can cost as much or more than monthly rent. They may be inadequately staffed. Getting a private nanny is a nice idea, but they don’t come cheap either. Relatives? Do they own a car? Does the bus run at the right times? Do they have jobs of their own they need to work just to keep the lights on? Are they going to stick around until you get off you convenience store shift at 4 AM? Do they have criminal histories that will make them unsuitable as caregivers when CPS pokes around? You gonna pay for that? Who’s going to pay for that? End rape. I know your type errs on the side of blaming the woman, but I’ve seen little girls who’ve barely gotten their periods pregnant because somebody thought raping preteens was an awesome idea. You want to put a child through that? Or someone with a mental or physical inability for whom pregnancy would be frightening, painful or even life-threatening? I’ve seen nonverbal kids who had their feet sliced up by caregivers for no fucking reason at all, you think sexual abuse doesn’t happen either? You say there’s lots of couples who want to adopt. Kiddo, what they want to adopt are healthy white babies, preferably untainted by the wombs and genetics of women with alcohol or drug dependencies. I’ve seen the kids they don’t want, who almost no one wants. You people focus only on the happy pink babies, the gigglers, the ones who grow and grow with no trouble. Those are not the kids who linger in foster care. Those are certainly not the older kids and teenagers who age out of foster care and then are thrown out in the streets, usually with an array of medical and mental health issues. Are they too old to count? And yeah, I’ve seen the babies, little hand-sized things barely clinging to life. There’s no glory, no wonder there. There is no wonder in a pregnant woman with five dollars to her name, so deep in depression you wonder if she’ll be alive in a week. Therapy costs money. Medicine costs money. Food, clothes, electricity cost money. Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive. (I’ve been up in more hospitals than I can count.) In each and every dark pit of desperation, I have never seen a pro-lifer. I ain’t never seen them babysitting, scrubbing floors, bringing over goods, handing mom $50 bucks a month or driving her to the pediatrician. I ain’t never seen them sitting up for hours with an autistic child who screams and rages so his mother can get some sleep while she rests up from working 14-hour days. I don’t see them fixing leaks in rundown houses or playing with a kid while the police prepare to interview her about her sexual abuse. They’re not paying for the funerals of babies and children who died after birth, when they truly do become independent organisms. And the crazy thing is they think they’ve already done their job, because the child was born! Aphids give birth, girl. It’s no miracle. You want to speak for the weak? Get off your high horse and get your hands dirty helping the poor, the isolated, the ill and mentally ill women and mothers and their children who already breathe the dirty air. You are doing nothing, absolutely nothing, for children. You don’t have a flea’s comprehension of injustice. You are not doing shit for life until you get in there and fight that darkness. Until you understand that abortion is salvation in a world like ours. Does that sound too hard? Do you really think suffering post-birth is more permissible, less worthy of outrage? “Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.”— In reply to a ‘pro-life’ blogger: STFU, Conservatives: When I say I’m pro-life… (via grrrltalk)
(via abiosis-apoptosis)
Phew! The last few weeks went by in such a blur that I only just collected my thoughts about it (some of the fog may have had to do with the impending cold that hit a day later).
Wednesday morning before the Twitter party I did some last minute inviting on Twitter, Facebook, and my own blogs….
Hi, friends, family, followers, and supporters! I’ll be helping host this Twitter party on Aug 1st as part of my internship at Viva Editions and Cleis Press, and I’d love if you joined in to support me and this wonderful book. I’ve read most of Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Motherhood and think it’s super helpful and funny, with fresh ideas about writing about motherhood and sharing the little things of life. And there will be prizes for the attendees who bring along the most guests. Best of all, you don’t have to go anywhere, just log into your Twitter account and follow the hashtag #UseYourWordsBook! This is the first Twitter party I’ve organized and I’m super excited to see how it turns out.
I know some of you are not mothers or never plan to be, but I think this book still has valuable advice for anyone with a writerly inclination, no matter their gender or feelings about motherhood. I think you each might have some sort of insight or smart comment to input into the conversation and I’d love it if you could make it! :) I’ve listed the most important information below and you can go to the Facebook event link for more details. Hope to see you there!
When: Wednesday, August 1st, from 2-3pm
Where: Twitter, at #UseYourWordsBook
Guest: Author Kate Hopper!
You can find out more about the event and prizes here: https://www.facebook.com/events/188613324603508/
If you happen to be in the San Francisco Bay Area, after the Twitter party you can join Kate Hopper at Good Vibrations’ “Mommies Playdate” at their Polk Street location: http://www.facebook.com/events/347940841951630/
Visit Kate on her website: www.katehopper.com.
Different Daughters: A Book by Mothers of Lesbians by Louise Rafkin
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
What speaks most in these stories is the overwhelming love these mothers have for their daughters. They are not the stories of complete triumph over prejudice, of flag-waving fans, but…